Updated: Sep 18, 2019
If you ever find yourself triggered in some way, check the ego at the door. Recognize there could be some truth in what is being said and open up to the possibilities for healing and enlightenment.
People can sometimes communicate in a way that will trigger us when sharing their truths. It is not always pretty and can be extremely messy and even misunderstood. But the thing is that many times it is done with the best of intentions and not done intentionally to cause pain. And when Spirit is involved, you can rest assured it is always with a reason!
Let’s face it; the truth often hurts because we don’t want to face it, or even recognize the shadow part of ourselves. But the thing is when we stop to breathe and take a step back to see from another perspective, we often can see things with more clarity and see that it was well-intentioned. You may need a day, a week or even a month to truly process and move into a heart space, and to shift mindsets after being triggered.
I know that I have had my human moments as a soul on the earth. I have my moments of being triggered and not wanting to hear that I was wrong or that there could be another perspective, or what have you. I will say that once you have been triggered, you may not act rationally, as the ego has surely taken over and there lies one of the problems. I have seen this, both with my reactions and when others are as well.
Having had lifetimes where there was judgment and killing for wrong choices and misgivings is a part of what can trigger me. Speaking my truth isn’t easy for me at times due to these and my other past experiences. I have been judged, criticized and even abandoned by family, friends and others throughout life for just being me, for speaking up, for my choices or even being different.
Years ago, I was taken through a life review by my Guides/Angels and Higher Self and saw myself (center stage) sharing my truth, knowing that I was going to be stoned to death. I have seen myself crawl out barely alive, bloodied from ancient gathering places and captured only to be hung on a cross to be crucified and stoned while on the cross for speaking my truth. I also have seen myself hold my head up high and give my persecutors permission to do what they needed to do. I did this while I continued speaking my truth to my last heartbeat and breath.
Having had this life review and seeing the rippling effects of this on my life, and how things ripple out into the lives of others, I do my best to try to come from a good place. I am a soul having a human experience and have made errors along the way, and probably will again. I own my faults. All I can do is forgive myself, and forgive others for the way they react, and do the best to learn from the errors or patterns that show up, and do a better each time coming from the heart.
It isn’t always easy to share my truth; that’s for sure. In fact, in school, I ran the other way from it frequently. And, if I had to do any public speaking, such as oral book reports, or class presentations, you had best had a kiddie pool for me to stand in due to the buckets of sweat that would be pouring down my body. When I first started teaching, I would find myself dripping with the focus on me. Once going through the life review and understanding where this fear of being in the public eye and speaking my truth came from I was able to let much of it go.
Nowadays, I don’t have problems with speaking my truth, but there are times when I tend to hold it within and bite my tongue so not to cause pain to another, especially if I don’t have all the facts. But the truth eventually finds it’s way out, and often sounding harsher or my critical then it was intended to be.
I also know that I am not alone in this. We have all found ourselves in uncomfortable positions at times and hold back our truth from others (for whatever their reasons). I will say it never does a person good to hold it in; it often breeds resentment, anger, frustration and more on unconscious levels or even consciously (at times).
Holding your thoughts and feelings within is like a ticking bomb just waiting to go off. And, boy when it does, you can be certain you will wish you had said it sooner, and more gently. You won’t regret what you shared; after all, it was your truth and perhaps the truth the other needed to hear, but you will certainly wish it came out differently. Yes, you may be able to ask forgiveness and get it; other times, you may ask, but you have triggered old wounds that have not fully healed in another yet. Trust me on that having experienced it myself many times throughout life.
As a teacher and writer, I often find it easier to share my truths in writing. I often do so while sharing my perspectives and stories along the way which may relate to what I am speaking of. I also recognize that not everyone will be ready to hear what needs to be shared and will sometimes turn away the teacher who Spirit puts in front of them. When this happens, Spirit will bring another teacher forth, and another until the student hears what Spirit is trying to share.
We are all teachers for one another in some way. When you recognize this and pay attention to the lessons, you may find that you receive great value from the energy of what is shared. I constantly learn from my students and readers, and I would hope they do as well from me.
Even our teachers can be triggered by old wounds and their own past stories. We must remember everyone is one trigger from falling off a pedestal and shattering your world. However, when you recognize they too are a soul having a human experience, their ego moments won’t be so devastating to experience or recover from. We are all in this together, and therefore we do our best to stay on the same level playing field.
As a medium, I find Spirit often also inspires and channels messages through my communications. This is often one reason why when I share things on Facebook or through other channels many may find themselves relating to what has been shared or even that the message is speaking to them directly at the perfect time. I may not always have a full conscious understanding of how it relates to another, but I know it does. This is something I have received validation from clients, students and people along the pathways, and also from my understanding of how Spirit works, at times.
In the message, there may be something which triggers another in their own opening of hearts, healing or enlightenment. Triggers are not a bad thing at times; sometimes, there is something that needs to unfold in the bigger picture and ultimately is a good thing. Other times, a trigger may invoke a memory or something that brings love, laughter and smiles to the face of another. As a medium, I deliver the message and let the cards fall where they may. I trust it will all work out with light leading the way.
As a facilitator of healing energy, Spirit will sometimes use me to help shift, awaken and heal something within another through my words and sharing of the energy transmissions throughout the time spent together. I have seen it over and over again. This is why when someone gets triggered by something I say I know there is some truth for them to connect with further.
Spirit always works in a win-win manner, and therefore there is always a component of the trigger that is for me. Chances it is something for me to shift, and perhaps to heal, awaken or understand further. I didn’t always understand this or know this to be true, but a recent experience Spirit awoke this knowledge within and brought it to my attention.
Mastery is a lifetime experience, and Spirit will be with us to support, guide and assist us along the pathways. Thank God. That means we aren’t alone on the pathways, even though sometimes it may feel like we were dropped off on this foreign planet (or into the fires of hell) to fend for ourselves.
Let’s face it, I am (as are you at times) a catalyst which is brought into people’s lives when transitions are unfolding in some way. Spirit has taught me this over the years of working with people. Whether you see it as a positive or negative experience, one thing is for certain it is always for our highest and greatest good, and is for the better. In time, we will understand and get this on deeper levels, and from a much broader perspective.
I offer an invitation to speak up and share your truth with those in your lives where and as you need to. It does more harm holding it in and expressing it at a later time. But this doesn’t just mean sharing with others but also looking deep within to see if there is something you need to get honest about with yourself. Many times, we aren’t even doing this completely.
Make it a daily effort for you to step out of your routines, and turn your attention within to see what truths are lying in wait. The sooner you discover them, the sooner you can heal this part of yourself, free yourself and even open up to others as appropriate. After all, how can you expect to be open and honest with others when you may not be with yourself? By making this check-in a regular routine, you may find yourself in a happier, healthier and more harmonious place as you do so. This includes both within your own skin and with the world around you. Talk about a beautiful gift!
It takes strength, courage and bravery to put yourself out there, to be vulnerable and to speak one's truth. Heck, it takes strength, courage and bravery to be yourself, to walk your own path and to live your own truth. Remember this the next time someone opens up and shares with you. You never know what it took for them to open up with you. Be a kind, loving, compassionate and understanding soul, both as you listen and as you respond to them.
I would encourage you to try your best to not jump to conclusions and even throw someone out to the curb just because they had a human moment. Try to see things from their perspectives and open up a conversation if need be once you have had time to process your stuff. We have all made errors, and we will all do so again as souls experiencing the earth moments.
In the meantime, please know that I love, accept and appreciate you as you are, and forgive you for having your human moments as well. I ask for forgiveness for my own errors and for having human moments. While they are great teaching and healing moments, they aren’t always pretty. So forgive me for that. I aim to do my best and do better each day.
Brian D. Calhoun